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  • Institutionalization.

    It’s like that one movie…pretty sure its Shawshank Redemption? There’s that one guy that gets out of jail and then commits suicide in a few months or so, because he can’t handle the real world after spending most of their life in jail.

    I think work operates in a similar way…but the cruelty of the trap is that the things that make life worth living, i.e. hobbies, friends, a life outside of work, etc. kind of interferes with your ability to get that high level income you need for early retirement.

    I think a lot of people that work even though they have the means to live comfortably for the rest of their lives are there because…work is their entire life. They have nothing outside of it. No purpose.

    We talk about retirement as a question of resources: do we have the financial resources to live x years? What we don’t talk about is every other resource. Social, emotional, physical (in the does your body work sense) etc. Sure, you’ve got the house and the money…but your friends are all at work, and making new ones is pretty hard…even if you manage to make bank and retire in your mid 30s.






  • I guess there is a gender aspect as well. One of my dude friends casually mentioned they were poly when talking about relationships. Nothing out of the ordinary, really. Just “oh, cool”.

    This girl I knew who I was a bit on the fence about invited me on a date and showed up with two other guys. I don’t have a problem with one night stands, but I have literally no interest in sharing. Then she got real mad when I didn’t try to hook up with her then and there. I didn’t even realize it was a poly thing until later that night, I thought she intended a platonic hang and I was the crazy one that thought it was a date.