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  • Acquaintance** is the word you’re looking for. An Acquittance is a statement/document that says you paid off/no longer owe a debt.

    Therapy. Right now. We are random strangers on the internet. In the year 2026 that means 99.9999999999999% of us are terminally online losers that not only don’t care about you personally, but we’re also data harvesting AIs that can’t personally care about anything.

    Having said that; That’s a rough place to be man. Life sucks, and then you die. I’ve been in a similar place, and even those of us great at making friends struggle with understanding the fundamentals. You are taking actions that are proven and well understood friendship catalysts. It is not your actions making you feel this way, it is a feedback loop stemming from a combination of a lack of skill and a selection bias. Comparison is the thief of joy, as they say.

    Something that helped me a lot when I had similar experiences was simply being more direct. People struggle with understanding subtly and context clues. Subtly is one of the hardest communication forms to master. You struggle with social situations. Act like a child, pretend you are writing for Netflix, and literally just full on exposition your feelings to people. “I am trying to make new friends, because I am lonely.” “I would like to date you, because I like you” “I also like XYZ, can I be invited to XYZ?” Always frame it with some form of reasoning: I want X Because Y // Because Y, I want X. Yes it feels stupid, yes you will look childish, yes you will often be given very patronizing reasons why you can or can’t be included, but in terms of social cues you lack both knowledge and a matured set of skills. Socially speaking you are effectively a caveman; put down the scalpel and stop trying to use nuanced surgical precision until you’ve mastered the basics of unga bunga with a social machete.