It’s not exactly a criticism. I personally have never met an american who was outright rude, just really oblivious of their surroundings. One of my american friends (who is a rather quiet person and feels much more at home here) told me that the US always feels very loud due to advertisements, music, TV being everywhere and you get uses to having to speak very loudly just to be heard.

Americans talk loudly and tend to be less mindful of the area around them. There’s this tendency to take up more space. Not necessarily in the sense of putting your bag on the seat but just big arm movements when talking, leaning, stretching legs. Not that every American I met did that, but enough to be noticeable. At least here in Germany people on average try to take up less space when in public.

There’s just this general air of “confidently doing something without knowing what they’re doing”. Other tourists tend to be more careful, ask how to do something or show they are insecure about how things work in a foreign country.

Americans just tend to take up more space. With their body language, their voice… I’ve met quite a few through language exchange groups and like 80% of the time you can tell their nationality before you talk to them.

Edit: Also let’s not forget american friendliness and enthusiasm. Often they are like 50% more enthusiastic about a situation then what feels appropriate. Be it thanking someone or being amazed by something.

I went to the cheese museum in Gouda last year and they explained that according to the current theory our ancestors discovered butter and cheese by hanging pouches of milk on their horses or cattle while traveling. The movement would turn the milk into butter and, if they used pouches made of animal stomach, the bacteria would turn the milk into cheese. So this is more or less the method by which we discovered butter in the first place.

I’m 40 (1985). I’ve had my experiences with older guys hitting on me when I was your age. I can tell you that, in my experience, the reason why men like that won’t date in their own age group is because women their age see the red flags more clearly or won’t put up with their bullshit.

Here are some things he might do to look out for: Does he try to impress you with things that are achievements for your age group but should be normal for his? Having a car, having their own apartment, having money to take you out etc. Maybe he’ll offer to drive you places or stay at his place to get away from your parents.

Does he comment a lot on your age and experience level. Things like “Have you already done (alcohol, sex…)”, “I’ve done XYZ, but you wouldn’t know about it”. Or does he act overly impressed by you ‘already’ knowing something, like music from his teenage years, having a job or just some common knowledge he thinks is “adult”, maybe about cars or jobs. Basically, does he act like you are special, more mature for your age or does he talk about your age a lot.

Even if he doesn’t do any of these things, I’d advice you against it. The age gap is too big. The world of an 18 year old who just got out of school is just very different from a 33 year old who is working a job. Having a few hobbies or music taste in common isn’t the same as being in the same place in life.

Everyone complains about it being empty and not many want to do anything about it. I’m not sure if this is even because of the user number, because I’ve been on forums with just a few users that were very active. It often seems like too many people here are waiting for a large influx of users so that others can do the posting. Also people try waaaay too hard to copy Reddit 1:1. They have this one very specific community with certain content and try to copy it here. If there was a subreddit for a 1998 version of an obscure computer game, they want this very same community to exist here. Instead of discussing said game in a more general community.

Met my husband on an event and we immediately got along great. We met up the next day for coffee, which turned into a 4 hour date, and I had the hugest crush on him. He came by my apartment five days later and we talked for hours, kissed, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. So about a week from first meeting to getting together. I think I told him I’ll marry him one day after a month or so. We’ve been together for 8 1/2 years now.

I don’t think the kids thought that far. I certainly didn’t.

In my elementary school there was a rumour that kissing someone on the mouth makes a baby in the throat. I’ve heard it still being spread years later. There are also parodies of famous German poems that you have or had to memorize in school, although I some kids learnt them from their parents. I know parody versions of Die Glocke and Die Bürgschaft.

Wenn die als Lösung des Problems den Vorschlag bieten “Wir lassen ab jetzt das Fenster zu” gehe ich davon aus, dass das nicht der Regelfall war.

Den Vorschlag der Stadt, in dem betroffenen Zimmer nach Einbau einer Entlüftung nur noch Geburten bei geschlossenen Fenstern zuzulassen, lehnen das Gericht und die Kläger daraufhin ab.

Also der Kläger hatte den Geburtsraum nicht nur direkt vor der Nase, die hatten auch immer das Fenster offen. Das muss doch auch für die Mütter unangenehm sein, da hat man doch wenig Privatsphäre.

There are rules to handle foreign names in a language with declinsion. I don’t see why you can’t use those.

Besides, most inflected languages I know will handle names differently from other nouns. Definitely true in German, but also Italian. E.g. you say “Faccio una foto del duomo.” (I’m taking a picture of the dome.) but “Faccio una foto di Mike.” (I’m taking a picture of Mike.)

The only language where this doesn’t work that I know of would be Latin, which is why people in the past latinized names.

We never had different names in language classes and the idea is so weird to me. My name is my name, I don’t introduce myself with a different name when I go to Italy or Spain.

“—and is still waiting for dual citizenship”

Aaand you can stop reading here.

Dual citizenship isn’t a thing (anymore) in Germany. That is to say, you can only get it if you can prove, that it’s almost impossible to give up your original citizenship. That isn’t the case for US Americans.

“Barbara W. does not want to have to choose. She wants German citizenship—without giving up her American one.”

Yeah, well, but then she just can’t have German citizenship. Yes it sucks, yes it would be nice if dual citizenship was easier, but this is the law currently. Dual citizenship is the exception in Germany. If she wants German citizenship, she has to give up the American one.

Besides, her reason is a bit weird. She wants to keep her American citizenship in memory of her father. I mean, for me citizenship is mostly bureaucracy and if you live in a country for years what good is it to also keep your old citizenship? Staying a citizen of a country you haven’t lived in for decades seems unnecessary.

About two days without food, a bit more if I remember correctly, and around one day without water.

I had to have a knee surgery with general anesthesia, so I wasn’t allowed to eat several hours before and couldn’t drink either. Due to the timing of the surgery the last time I would have been allowed to drink was like 1 am, but I’m a morning person and was anxious so I went to bed at my normal 10pm and also ate and drank at my normal 7-8pm or so. Or maybe I had to stop eating earlier, I don’t remember exactly.

Anyway, the surgery happened, my parents picked me up and took me home. My mother had one of her many many meltdowns. They hadn’t brought me snacks or drinks to the hospital and she just mocked me that I couldn’t hold it together for the 1 hour ride home. We get home, I hobbled to my bed. My mother refused to bring me food or drinks and forbid my father from bringing me anything. I could come to the kitchen and sit at the table “like a normal person” if I wanted to eat. In the evening my spineles POS father at least brought me a bottle of water, much to my mother’s dismay.

The next day I managed to hobble to the table, so I was allowed to eat and drink.

This wasn’t entirely new, my parents had a habit of locking me up in my room without food or water for an entire day when I was little. They never thought that was a big deal. My mother even told me after the surgery that she wouldn’t bring me food to not “enable my spoiled behaviour” and that it was a good chance to finally lose some weight. (I was just slightly overweight, maybe 80kg at 172).

In case you’re wondering: yes, I’ve been no contact with my family for years.

Get in contact with CPS and try everything to be taken out of that house.

I’m aware they don’t care, I was just thinking that they might make more people angry than ‘only’ the targeted out-group. Also it would be funny if some rich Hollywood stars couldn’t vote because they changed their name for their career.

Wouldn’t that also hurt all kinds oft people who changed their name for other reasons? Like people who had a Tragedeigh name or artists who took on a different name.

Ich seh jetzt alles.

Ich hab’s nochmal in einem anderen Browser auf dem Laptop statt auf dem Handy geöffnet und sehe dort auch nichts.

Edit: Impressum und Datenschutz sind auch leer. Duckduckgo-Browser auf Lineage, Firefox auf Windows und Edge auf Windows, alle sind leer.

There is another article on the website about a rise in violence and bullying in schools. Makes you wonder what the reason behind that is.