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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I grew up in a very similar house. This is indeed uncommon.

    My advice:

    • you’re doing great by going to therapy
    • get out of the house at all costs as soon as possible (today if possible)
    • wherever you end up, you will have a rough go, but you will find work and a way to support yourself. You’re a good person, and people want to work with good people
    • in your new city, join a volunteer group. This will help you to understand that there are good people out there, that you can make a positive difference in the lives of people with similar experiences, and that there’s good in the world. Social connectedness is very strongly correlated with happiness
    • people can begin to resemble their abusers but sometimes they become saints. You’re on the right trajectory, keep up the good work

    I’m a programmer. Happy to take a DM from you anytime. Also if you go to SF, I can give you more info.